In the generations we are raising there is a truth that gets taken for granted that adults seem to understand well. This truth amalgamates into our way of thinking the older and wiser we become that I think would be very helpful to examine briefly in this post. Many times I see students making poor decisions in ever escalating rapidity. All along they seem to have cut what ever cord was tethering their stated beliefs and values from what they actually do. It’s almost as if they believe that actions and the internal character of who they are, are somehow not related.
Scripture gives us clear and germane wisdom in Proverbs 11:3
“The integrity of the upright guides them,
but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”
Recently I had a conversation with a person who’s child has been making increasingly worse choices. He has done what most fear of their sons doing, bad grades, abuse of drugs, general laziness, disrespectful and in trouble with the law. Yet amazingly after all of this is stated clearly, this young man’s parent claims that “he’s a good kid.”
How? What do you mean good?
Now, as parents we understand what is really meant here. “I love him.” or “He has potential.” But certainly we are not helping our children make better choices if we continue to give them the impression that you can basically sin in whatever ways you desire and you can still be a good person.
Class presidents can be arrested for public intoxication. Straight A students can be cruel and hateful towards anyone different. The star athlete can be an avid shop-lifter.
As a people we have confused “doing well” in succeeding with these outwardly activities with “being well” in one’s heart with the Lord. We must help our children realize that their actions directly reflect and influence who we actually are.